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PARENTING
by Simone Westone
http://www.diaparenting.com
There are many challenges to being a parent, however, the
rewards can be endless. There is no guidebook, or set of
rules written in stone that tell you how to become the
perfect parent. There is no such thing, most of us raise
our children along the same way our parents raised us. This
is not always true though, and many parents go with their
feelings when it's their turn to be parents. Many of us
learn along the way and in doing this, we sometimes learn
discover things we never knew about ourselves.
It is not easy being a parent and it's the luck of the draw
on whether your kids will be angels or devils in training.
Some children can be very stubborn and they really push
their parents real close to the breaking line sometimes.
Many times though this can be a phase the child is going
through at a certain time in their lives and it doesn't
always have to be frustrating to a parent. Stubborn
children are starting to learn what the like and don't
like, and they are learning to express their opinions.
Typically, when a child expresses stubbornness, it is that
child's way of showing assertiveness to get attention.
Because of this, you can take your child's actions of
stubbornness as a clue that you need to provide more
attention, but the right type of attention. Perhaps your
child is being bullied at school but afraid to tell you.
It could be that your child has some kind of fear but is
not sure how to express it. Therefore, instead of feeling
angry or even frustrated, look at your child's stubbornness
as his or her way of trying to communication about
something.
Children want respect just like everyone else, however,
children are not "small adults." Try to discuss things on
their level and age, and even if their still small, don't
baby talk to them. Find a time that is good for the both of
you and when there will be plenty of time and no one is
rushed. If you try and speak with you child when they want
to play with friends or watch a favorite show, you will not
get their full attention and this may aggravate the
situation even more.
Children learn at a very early age how to be great
manipulators and they will try to see how far you can be
pushed before you will give up and allow them to have their
way. Show them there are rules for everybody and we must
abide by them. If he or she is out playing and you tell
them to be in the house for dinner in 15 minuets then stick
to it. If they don't come in when you tell them, there will
be consequences.
A stubborn child may be a bit harder to deal with but
if you don't assert yourself as a parent while their young,
you may be in for some really big rebellion problems in
the future. Be a parent and act like one, you are not
their friend. So many parents a afraid their children will
not "like them," they are not supposed to like you all the
time. But they will always love you, and as they grow
into adults, they will see you were right about the rules.
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